The decision to adopt can be incredibly intimidating. There are a tremendous amount of delicate intricacies to consider and weigh. But then, you take the leap. Jumping straight into the unknowns of what is one of the best and hardest roads you could walk on earth by welcoming a sweet, little one into your family, but also having a front row seat to the most selfless and hardest decision that an expecting family can make.
We were there, deep in the unending Google searches, looking for the best people to lead us down this path. Asking Siri all the important questions on how to get started. And after finding closed doors internationally, our minds were truly spinning, sort of like those funny cartoon characters you see on Saturday mornings. We went to the meetings of local agencies, feeling uncertain if that was the path for us. It was there in the spinning and the uncertainty that we received a message from a friend who encouraged us to talk to friends who had walked this road with the help of Christian Adoption Consultants (CAC). Our first question was, what in the world is an adoption consultant?
This interaction led us to the sweetest gal, who would eventually become our consultant, our faithful warrior in prayer & encouragement, and our wealth of knowledge and peace when we needed it most.
So why did we choose CAC to walk with us on our adoption journey to our son? A multitude of reasons really, allow me to speak to a few.
- Direction. Do you remember what it was like to travel without navigation features. Using pen or pencil to trace the winding roads, guessing which route was the best, scratching your head as you decided between the North route or South route. Adoption is too intricate to guess which way to turn. Having a consultant guide us, providing wise thought and advice for each step, gave us confidence to move forward in the best direction for our family. Things like finding a home study provider, creating a profile book that gave life to our family through words and pictures, and how to love a birth mom well- just to name a few. You don’t really know what you don’t know. Having someone in our corner who figuratively held our hand when we needed it, encouraged us in the unknowns, and prayed for us endlessly throughout was one of the most invaluable pieces of our journey.
- Opportunities. Ethical opportunities. Before signing on with CAC, we searched intensely for hours, wondering who to trust, and how to know that these expecting families are being treated right and well. CAC’s multi-layered vetting process of agencies and attorneys spoke to our soul. They do the hard things, ask the right questions, and follow up consistently to ensure that expecting families are loved hard and well. Ensuring the adoption triad is respected in its uniqueness. CAC recommends only the best and seeks to honor all parties of the adoption triad while doing so.
- Peace. There was something about that free 30-minute introductory phone call with our consultant that evening. The only way I can describe it is an overwhelming sense of peace. Our spinning minds became still, the path became clearer, and our hearts were ablaze with hopeful anticipation of everything we knew the Lord had us brought to. All of the what-ifs were set aside as we imagined what this journey would look like with the invaluable knowledge of a sweet stranger who became a loving mentor, cheerleader, and friend.
Choosing to work with CAC was the best option for our family. We aligned with the values and ethics, but also connected personally with our consultant. This journey is far too intimate and kingdom-building to not. If you are looking for more reasons to consider CAC to walk with you on your adoption journey and to see if it is a great fit for your family, I would love the opportunity to speak to you about it! Just maybe that call could be the peace you have been looking for in the midst of your own spinning.
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