Thoughts From Birth Mothers About Fathers

Today we have a very special post from a few Birth Mothers sharing their thoughts on Fathers and Adoptive Fathers. We pray it would be a blessing to all of the dads out there!

Alena – Birth Mom 
My children have an incredible adopted father, in a way it has always felt like he adopted me too.  He and his amazing wife had biological children my age at the time, and chose to sow into me regardless of the adoptions, then it made the decision to place with them that much clearer in my eyes. I wanted my children to have a mom and a dad and he made me have so much peace as I placed with them. 

They made promises to me about open adoption above and beyond the legal agreement- forming a covenant together and they’ve kept every single promise. My children are now 20 & 17. 

My children also have an incredible ally in my husband. He knew about them and my story before he met me- when we met, they were 2.5 and 3 months old. In my trauma, I told him the whole story expecting him to feel like it was too much and walk away, but instead, he saw my strength, my love, and my sacrifice.

The next year, we were married and I remember having a sad moment missing my babies. He looked me in the eyes and told me “Do you know that I would’ve adopted them? You wouldn’t have been doing it alone” And it broke my heart in the best way. I felt like God planted these incredible men in my life and in their lives, that no matter what, they would have had a mom and a dad and that was so important to me. 

He loves them so much and before they could fully understand, my daughter thought she was his biologically and I was ok with that. Because all she knew was that he loved her too. 

Liz – Birth Mom 
My son’s father is an incredible man. Daddy Mike and his wife adopted my Matthew. They had the opportunity to adopt a toddler they had fostered for a few months.  He said “no” because he didn’t feel like that was their kid. When Mike first held Matthew in the hospital, tears came to his eyes and he said, “THIS is our baby.”  He has been an incredible role model. He works hard so his wife can stay home, manage family life and homeschool the kids. Daddy Mike was also the kid’s Sunday school teacher and attended Matthew’s games.

Katie – Birth Mom
I’m so thankful for my daughter’s {adoptive} dad. He has instilled in her such pride of identity, a kind heart, and strength. Also, she looks like their biological child, which is kind of fun!

Also, my dad has never ceased to amaze me. He’s selfless, patient, brilliant, and kind. He has always done his best to meet us where we are at and will sacrifice everything for his kids. That included adopting my son when I needed their help. He’s an amazing dad and I’m glad he is mine.