Repost: What I Wish I Knew While We Were Waiting

There’s no doubt that the wait in adoption is one of the hardest parts of the adoption journey. Your home study is done, profile is created, and now you sit, waiting to be matched. I thought today I would repost some practical encouragement?from adoptive families who have been in the wait and what they wished they had known during that time…

In the midst of the wait of adoption, it can be easy for discouragement and hopelessness to creep in. Doubting what God has called you to and feeling overwhelmed with the unknown, it’s easy to forget that?God is working even when we can’t see it. It’s hard to?cling to the truth in the wait.

Recently, I asked some of my families who are on the other side of their adoptions what they wished they knew while they were waiting. Each of them who are done with the wait of their journey and have little ones in their arms. Here’s what they said…

God writes the best stories.Better than we could ever imagine. Once you see it all unfolded you realize all the frustration and waiting and delays were not in vain and served the perfect purpose of guiding you to the expectant mom and baby that you were meant to be with.? – Leigh

I read or heard somewhere that we shouldn’t put our hope in something that we can lose. I could lose my marriage, I could lose my job, I could lose my child. I had thought, “If only I had ____, THEN I would be okay.” Usually the answer was a baby. I thought that when we finally “got” a baby, I would be okay. But then I wasn’t. Becoming a mom didn’t solve all my problems, in fact, it created some new ones. It’s so hard, but that’s why we repent and ask God to help our idolatrous heart. Ask him to give you joy and peaceThat’s near impossible without God’s help. Ask him! ?- Stacey

I wish I had realized that God didn’t expect all the disappointments, the frustrations and even the no’s we experienced to make sense to me at the time but that in the end He would make it all plain and his plan would make SO MUCH sense! ?- Gayla

I wish I had known that God hadn’t forgotten about us.That His hand was in every detour navigating us to our daughters in His perfect timing.?- Shelley

I wish we had realized just how God loves us…I think about the love my earthly father has for me and I know he would do all in his ability to give me my hearts desires and keep me from tears BUT he can’t do it…my God loves me even more than that and He CAN do all of that and more! AND?He is faithful…He restored everything the moment we held our son.?(And as hard as it was, I had to come to truly realize that God was sufficient even if a baby never came. It was a correcting of my perspective that led to peace throughout the process.)??- Katie

God has a plan and it’s better then yours! And once the wait is over, the sadness, longing , and pain seems so short and insignificant!? – Becca

That God would be enough to see us through.That there are GOOD and BAD people in the adoption world and you have to forgive the bad and keep going and trust somehow that it was for a purpose… That God would provide financially when the debt seemed insurmountable. (God knew, I suppose, that I need a lesson in trusting when it came to money!) And in the end, although it was very hard the wait would be worth our little man.? – Rosie

That it’s out of our hands, God is in control. Just breathe! ?- Michelle

I wish I had realized how very precious every day of the wait is – God needs every second of that time to orchestrate the massive butterfly effect of adoption.To wish it differently is to idolize my own situation and wants. It’s not just my family, but the timing of the birth family, the timing of the extended family’s experiences (on both sides), the timing of the people you will spontaneously meet along the way who needed to hear your story or whose story YOU needed to hear or who needed to even just see your family from afar and have that work in their hearts, who needed to have an adoptive family’s presence in the community or church, the timing of where God needs our adopted children to be as they grow up in order to accomplish his work…I could go on and on. The effects of adoption are far reaching and profound. The timing is NOT just about the right child for our family. Actually, I know for sure I don’t deserve such a precious gift at all. The fact God has answered that prayer for us means that we have received INFINITELY more than we deserve.

– Meagan

It was so good to remember that we weren’t waiting on an agency, a situation, a “yes”, or even a baby. We were waiting on God alone.And to continually remind ourselves of God’s mercy especially in the moments we felt He was an unkind Father. Just as He had compassion on those grumbling Israelites in the desert, He continually had compassion on our faint hearts. Lean into the family of God, and hold tight to the promises of Jesus.? – Danielle

?Susan@ChristianAdoptionConsultants.com

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