Oncology waiting rooms aren’t unfamiliar to me. I’ve spent a great deal of time and energy in those spaces. As someone who has beat cancer a handful of times, I’m very accustomed to waiting. But please don’t let me fool you, just because I’m familiar with waiting in unknown spaces does not equate to any mastery of it. However, God, in His rich mercy and kindness has allowed me to learn a thing or two from walking some down some very scary times of uncertainty. You might be thinking, “Kelly, what does your cancer have to do with our adoption process?” Because all of us have our own “waiting room” experiences. If you’ve spent any time at all in the adoption process, you know exactly what I mean.
Your current waiting place may look different than someone else’s, but they all entail a similar component: uncertainty. When will our home study be done? When will an expectant mother choose us? When will we see the next adoption situation? When will we get the call that baby is on the way? How much longer until consents are signed? When will ICPC be complete?
Today I want to share with you three nuggets of truth that the Lord has taught me over the years. I pray the Holy Spirit will use them to minister to your heart—wherever you are in your waiting room.
1. God is working in you through the wait. Because God is in control of all things and desires good things for His children, we can assume that this wait is a part of God’s loving and good plan for us. As a result of my cancer and infertility “waiting room experiences,” I became desperately more aware of my daily, moment-by-moment, breath-by-breath, can’t-take-another-step-with-out-you need for Jesus. It was through all of those moments, days, weeks and years of uncertainty that I learned the depths of God’s grace and found there was no end to it. It was through the hard things that God kept my heart close to His through the necessity of prayer. Out of this dormant space, a resilient spirit—deeply rooted in God’s love—emerged from the grave. I’m certain if I hadn’t been through the fire, I wouldn’t be the mother, wife, friend, or consultant I am today. If you’re in a waiting room right now, you can be certain that God is working in you through the wait.
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (James 1:2-4).
2. God hasn’t forgotten about you. Sometimes when things aren’t working out like we expected they would, we can be tempted to think that God has forgotten about us. The stillness can often make us feel isolated, alone or abandoned—like a ship lost at sea. But that is not the truth. It may feel really true to us, but we can’t always trust our feelings, which often are moved and changed by circumstance. But God and His Word remain constant. God has not promised that the road will be easy, but His steadfast promise is to always be with us.
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6).
3. God’s timing is perfect. Although this is phrase is thrown around a lot, that doesn’t invalidate or minimize its truth. As an Adoption Consultant with CAC I see this through the intricate details of each and every narrative God writes for my families. He is the author. He holds the pen. His timing is perfect. But sometimes, as a bystander, it’s difficult to see what He is up to. Oftentimes we can’t see the masterpiece He is creating until the work is finished. When a family walks through an interrupted adoption, the pain will seem unbearable. However, when they are on the other side of the adoption process, rocking their child to sleep at night, they’ll be certain that God’s timing is perfect. If their story had unfolded any differently, the child they call “son” or “daughter” wouldn’t be in their arms. That doesn’t mean that their previous loss wasn’t painful, but it does help them comprehend God’s beneficial timeline.
“In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps” (Proverbs 16:9).
Friends, if you’re struggling to trust God in the wait, ask Him to help you believe these truths. Your understanding and clarity is coming soon. Waiting is never wasted with God.
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