Families come to adoption from many different circumstances filled with a vast array of emotions. As Kevin and Katie first shared with me about their family and the loss of their daughter, I could sense both the deep sorrow and deep hope their hearts held as they considered adoption. I have never lost a child and I won’t pretend to know what it’s like. But as I walk with adoptive families who are grieving it is my heart’s desire to love well with much compassion and sensitivity. We talked at length about what adoption situations might be best for them to minimize risks as much as possible. And we prayed that God would grant them their desire to adopt a baby girl.
“The very first time we ever spoke with Katie on the phone it was like speaking with a long time friend. She was always there for us listen to our concerns and was there to give encouraging words. We definitely felt like we could tell her anything. She helped us to stay strong and to have faith. I knew that I could always call or text her anytime and she was always there to listen and to pray for our family. It’s such a good feeling to know that many things come out of adoption, not just a baby, but friendships as well.” – Katie
While they worked on their home study, I worked on their profile book and then Kevin and Katie began presenting their profile to expectant mamas. Presenting takes courage; it is putting your heart out there with the knowledge that you may hear a “no” in response. Starting in October of last year, they bravely began putting their heart out on the table again and again and again, waiting for their “yes” to come. It was not easy. (It never is.)
Finally, nine months later they heard the words they had been waiting for: “She chose you!” Kevin and Katie built a beautiful relationship with the expectant mama they were matched with, in many ways loving and supporting her just like family.
“We were so nervous and excited to meet her. It was long a drive. Lots of prayers were said. Finally we made it. We greeted with a hug and it was great to finally see her in person. A relationship and bond was formed. We were so surprised how honest and upfront she was in telling us her story and feelings. We went to eat and continued to build our relationship.” – Katie
They were able to be there for their daughter’s birth in October, sharing with her birth mama beautiful memories as they all welcomed this loved little girl into the world!
“We honestly weren’t sure where this adoption journey would take us. The pain of failed IVF, difficult pregnancy and then losing a child is indescribable. God kept calling us towards adoption. After a year of not even discussing another baby, we couldn’t wait any longer and began the process. Adopting a baby will never replace your baby. But just when you think your heart can’t take any more, it is filled with more and more love. The days get brighter and easier.” – Katie
This love this precious family has is so evident as they enjoy their sweet girl! My heart about explodes each time Katie texts me a new picture and I am reminded, there is no limit to the love a heart can hold.