John and Cindy have huge hearts for adoption and brought home their little miracle with the assistance of Christian Adoption Consultants last year. Cindy eagerly shares their amazing adoption story in her own words:
“I grew up knowing I wanted to foster or adopt. I think the number one influence in this area was my best friend’s family. They had very little earthly goods yet they opened they home to foster children. I began to read every book I could find on fostering and adoption. Since I also had a heart for those with special needs, many of these books were about large families that adopted a number of children.
When John and I started dating during our college years, I told him of my dream to foster and/or adopt and even had him read one of my favorite books. He very plainly, and without much discussion, said, “No.” But God was working on him. John graduated from college with a degree in psychology. He immediately enrolled in grad school but there isn’t much you can do in the field until you have a master’s degree. So he applied for social work positions and wouldn’t you know, God led him to his first job, as a foster care social worker for medically fragile infants in center city, Philadelphia. His first day on the job he accompanied another case worker to the hospital to pick up a little girl who had been born with Apgar’s of 0 and 0. A little while later they placed that baby in the very large welcoming arms of her foster mother. Through the next few years John watched that family, as well as many others, love the least of these. His heart was changing but he wasn’t quite ready.
The next part of our journey toward adoption involves infertility. I have endometriosis and when surgery revealed that I might never be able to conceive a child, John was finally ready to begin the process. We did the necessary trainings and completed all the paperwork and began the very long wait for a child. In the meantime we did foster care for an adoption agency. We took care of infants, placed right out of the hospital, while they waited for their forever families to arrive. This was all very short term but there were still babies to whom we became attached.
And then I found out that I was pregnant and God blessed us with a healthy little boy. Nineteen months later, another. Nineteen months after that God sent us a little girl. In the next few years we became a family of seven. And then I mentioned foster care again. Why not?
We were approved to be foster parents on June 1 of 2006 and unbeknownst to us a baby girl was born that day. Five days later we got the call asking us if we’d come to the hospital to pick her up. It was a typical foster care journey of ups and downs but almost two years later she became a permanent member of our family. Our state only allows foster families to have six children in the home so one week after her finalization we received the letter thanking us for our services but stating that our home was now closed to foster care.
Many days I wrestled with God, asking Him why the desire to foster was so strong if the door was closed. In the next two years we worked with two different agencies, both of whom said they could help us jump through the extra hoops but to no avail. In November of 2010, John and I attended an Orphan Summit. While there, I spoke to a social worker who informed us about several children needing homes. Soon, our son who was 10 years old at the time, joined our family.
But the desire to grow our family still didn’t go away. We can’t remember if we found Tracie or if she found us but it was through a mutual “friend” on Facebook. I picked her brain a bit on what a consultant is, how it differs from other methods of adoption, and what our options would be. We were ready to start again.”
(Check back tomorrow to hear the rest of their incredible story!)
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