Dear Adoptive Father,
When I chose you, I was in quite a situation, but something struck me in your profile book and in that moment I knew a peace like I hadn’t known in months. When I got to met you and your wife, as awkward as it was, I felt honored in your presence. I distinctly recall being asked questions about my hopes, dreams, goals, aspirations and even hobbies as if those were actually important. You may not have known this, but compared to the rest of the seniors in my high school, I felt like I was going nowhere. My life was on pause while everyone else was filling out college applications, planning parties, vacations, pranks, sports and summer jobs. This may be a shock to you, but I actually felt like my life wasn’t worthy of those fun things in the moment. However, your questions reminded me that I was still an important human—aside from the unplanned situation I was experiencing. I was indeed worthy of a future.
When you asked if I’d chosen a name for my son, I almost couldn’t breathe enough to utter the name I had been calling him every night while he listened—through my tummy—to my Sony Walkman. I spoke his name out loud for the first time that day, and the way you received the words, his name, gave me immense comfort.
Over the years, I’ve enjoyed being on the sidelines of your incredible fathering through birthdays, holidays, milestones, adventuring and coaching. It’s been an honor to be included as a family member!
Your love and commitment to your gorgeous family blesses me and my family! Anyone who fiercely loves my son, also loves me. So on this Father’s Day, I say thank you for being an additional role model to/for me. You’ve been and continue to be the perfect complement to my fathering team.