Grocery store clerk: I just love her hair – is she from Africa??
Woman in elevator: Oh, he’s adopted? Are you infertile??
Child at a park: Is she your real mom??
Co-worker: Was the mom a drug addict or something??
Friend at a party: So, how much did they cost?
Grocery store clerk:?I just love her hair – is she from Africa?
Adoptive parent: We love her hair too! She was actually adopted domestically.
Woman in elevator:?Oh, he’s?adopted?Are you infertile?
Adoptive parent: Yes – he is adopted. And we decided that adoption was a great way to grow our family!
Child at a park:?Are you his?real?mom?
Adoptive Parent: I sure am!(Depending on the setting or person, this might be a great time to talk about the different ways God grows families and the differences and similarities of biological and adoptive parents. Usually though, such a small response is sufficient.)
Co-worker: Was the mom a drug addict or something?
Adoptive parent: We consider information about her birth mother private but we can tell you we think she’s an?incredibly?brave and selfless woman.
Friend at a party:?So, how much did they cost?
Adoptive parent: Each adoption has costs to ensure the birth family gets the best support and counseling and a legal and ethical process is followed. I’d be happy to point you to some resources for more information.