I love sharing families? stories from their own perspectives. Our sweet Lindsay is waiting for ICPC clearance as we speak and wrote this beautiful tribute to their ongoing open adoption story. Thank you for sharing your awesome heart, sweet friend! Praying for you to get to come home very soon!
After nearly a decade of infertility struggles, our adoption journey began in June 2015. We were referred to Christian Adoption Consultants & Karalee specifically by a co-worker who had adopted twins two years prior. Our home study and profile were completed in October and we began applying to agencies right away. We presented to 3 birth mothers within the next couple of weeks, but were not selected. While eachno? was disappointing, we kept faith that the right match would come along.
On December 4, 2015, we had the opportunity to present to a young birth mother who had already reviewed several profiles, but had not yet found the right fit. After reviewing the case, it didn’t take us long to decide we wanted to be presented. Just a few short (long!) days later, and roughly 60 days after we began applying to agencies, we received the call that we had been eagerly anticipating.J? had selected us!
The week before Christmas, we had the opportunity to speak toJ? over the phone for the first time.J? shared with us that she was expecting a boy we couldn’t have asked for a more perfect Christmas gift! Over the next 4 months, we remained in close contact and did our utmost to support her from over 1,500 miles away. We shared jokes & milestones with each other, but also tears when some health concerns with baby were identified. Thanks to lots of prayers & excellent care by doctors, all of the baby’s health concerns remedied themselves as the pregnancy progressed.
As baby’s due date approached, we made the decision that I would drive the 24 hours to Florida from Nebraska a week prior to the due date, just in case baby boy decided to arrive early. I am now so grateful that we had the opportunity to spend so much time withJ? prior to delivery.
I arrived in Florida and metJ? for lunch the next afternoon. Since this was to be our first in-person meeting, I was excited & anxious all at the same time talk about butterflies in the stomach! Of course, I needn’t have worried. We chatted over lunch like we had known each other for years and she invited me to her doctor appointment that Friday. There was a lot of emotion on both sides, but I will forever be grateful for this time we shared. Over the course of the week, I had so many mixed emotions: excitement, nervousness, sadness, elation. I also struggled with my feelings of excitement & happiness, which I felt were coming at the expense of another woman’s grief and sacrifice.J? provided me so much support over our entire journey, as much as we supported her, and this week was no exception.
On Friday, April 22nd, I was able to share the incredible experience of hearing our baby’s heartbeat with the amazing woman bringing him in to the world. It was such an emotional and powerful moment that I was honored to have been invited to share in. The next day, Mike arrived in Florida, soJ? and I set off to pick him up from the airport. SeeingJ? and Mike meet & interact was amazing their bond was so natural and instantaneous. We all laughed & joked together over lunch and on the car ride home.
On Sunday, we received a text fromJ? that she thought she may need to go to the hospital later that afternoon. Within 2 hours of the initial text, we were checking into the hospital. Soon, the nurse toldJ? that she was staying & they prepared to move her into a private room. This was it!
Over the course of the next 12 hours,J? worked hard to bring this precious new life into the world & we did what we could to support her and help her be as comfortable as possible. Throughout the night, we held her hand, rubbed her back, and breathed through contractions. Ultimately, the doctor decided that an emergency c-section would be necessary, due to drops in the baby’s heart rate. They preppedJ? for the OR, as the rest of us waited in her room & prayed for the health & safety of both her and the baby. Roughly 20 minutes later, Quinn Michael entered the world. He was healthy and absolutely perfect! On the way to the nursery, they passed the waiting room &J’s? mom asked the nurse to stop so that Mike & I could meet our son. There were lots of tears, hugs & congratulations going around it was an absolutely perfect & incredible moment!
OnceJ? was in recovery, Quinn was brought to her room so that she could be the first to hold him. The love in that room was evident and we will forever be grateful thatJ? had that first moment with Quinn & that we were able to witness how much she loves him firsthand. Everything was just as it was supposed to be.
Over the next few days in the hospital, we shared? many moments withJ,? Quinn, and their family everyone was so supportive and we forged bonds with Quinn’s birth family that will last a lifetime. We can’t wait to share these memories with our son as he grows, so that he can know just how much love & support surrounds him. Quinn was discharged on April 28th and since discharge we have made it a priority to spend quality time withJ? while we are still in Florida awaiting ICPC clearance.
When we initially made the decision to enter into an open adoption, we really didn’t know what to expect, but the experience has been far more than we could have ever hoped for.J? is an incredible person with an amazing philosophy on life so many times throughout this journey, we have been humbled and awed by her words & actions. She is just as much a part of our family as Quinn is and we are forever blessed to have her in our lives. This has been an experience we are blessed to have & we are so incredibly thankful for our beautiful birth mother and our little Quinn.