I love you!Goodness knows, I am so grateful and blessed to be among you. However, I’ve noticed something that hurts my heart. I recently read a post about a lovely couple that announced they were adopting. A sweet baby was due to be born in just a few weeks and would be their son. Among the responses were a large number of people who were adoptive parents and many of their comments shocked me. They were encouraging the family to adopt through foster care. Now, I am quick to tell you I have a love for all children. As a social worker, I see the need for people to adopt through foster care. However, the message sent is that one child is more worthy of adoption than the other or one adoption is more meaningful than the other.
I am fully aware that domestic, international, and foster care adoptions all come with different needs. But guess what, they have a great deal of similarities. All off these children need homes. All of these children experience loss, have a need to attach and bond, and all of these children are worthy of adoption. Yes, I know some argue that those in an orphanage or foster care may have a greater need for a home than those who are about to be born. Children of domestic adoption are sometimes drug exposed or have needs based on lack of prenatal care, etc. There are also needs of those who adopt a relative or a step child. I know we could go on and on about the needs of all these children.? My point is that WE are all the adoption community. If we can’t band together, find commonality, and support each other, then who will. WE must all work together to help people understand the complexities of adoption and the beauty that accompanies such a privilege, however it came to us.
Lastly, lets take a look through the eyes of God. Our great God did not deem one of us as more adoptable based on our sin or issues. He saw us ALL as worthy of adoption, no one greater than the other. Let’s work together as an adoption community by supporting, encouraging and loving each other.
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With sincerity and a humble heart,