Adoption Story: Tyler + Lindsey

I’m honored to share Tyler and Lindsey’s whirlwind adoption story with you today! Like all adoption journeys, there were some unexpected twists and turns but none of it was a surprise to God. He was at work and the story He was writing was beautiful!

Lindsey shares more below…

I can imagine our story starts out similar to others that choose the path of adoption; however, we could never have imagined that our story would end with God’s work written all over it. Adoption was never a last resort for us but instead something that we had talked about doing after we had 1 or 2 biological children. After several years of infertility, an ectopic pregnancy, and multiple rounds of IVF it was clear that God had other plans for us.

It came highly recommended by a friend of ours to contact Christian Adoption Consultants which led us to Leah. She was a Godsend. From the very start, she was exactly what we needed to help guide and support us through this journey. Our adoption process was shorter than most but still not without the emotional roller coaster. There were so many details being worked out behind the scenes. We signed on with CAC in January 2019 and began our home study right away. Now anyone that knows me (Lindsey) knows that I’m not someone that likes deadlines; but April 1st kept sticking out in my mind. I was dead set that we needed to be home study ready by that date. We signed on with our first agency with the help of our consultant on March 29 and didn’t even have our profile books back yet. They told us they had an expectant momma and asked if we wanted to present our profile. We looked it over and without hesitation said yes! We didn’t want to get too excited because after all, it was our first time presenting. They presented to the expectant momma about a week later and we found out the next day that she had chosen us. We were flooded with emotions of joy, excitement, and shock that it happened so fast. The baby boy was due June 11. We started to prepare and get the nursery ready, but I never felt at ease over those next 3 weeks. I was so fearful that she would change her mind. Monday, May 13 we got that gut-wrenching phone call. I will never forget that day. The caseworker called to tell us that they were unable to locate the birth mom and they were considering this a failed adoption. My exact fears going into this process had happened. We were heartbroken and mad at God. Why? Why does everything have to be so dang hard?

Those questions were unfair; God was working overtime behind the scenes and positioning us for a miracle. I can honestly say that was one of the hardest weeks of my life. Friday at 4:30 pm we got a call that a baby was born and wanted to know if we wanted to present. We, of course, said yes but didn’t want to get our hopes up. That Saturday afternoon we got the call that they had chosen us. We hopped on a plane Sunday morning and met the caseworker at a Starbucks to get our sweet baby boy. He was absolutely perfect in every way! God’s plans are always better than our own; it just took a long journey for us to stop questioning Him.

While we get a lot of questions about our journey to our son one that we get most often is, “did you meet his birth parents?” Going in to this my husband and I were terrified to do an open adoption. Mainly because we had zero idea what that would look like. The answer to that question is, yes. We met them twice while in Arizona and were able to spend a good deal of time with them. I am beyond grateful for those moments. I will never forget Wade’s birth mom handing him to me with tears in her eyes knowing that she was making the right decision but entrusting a piece of her heart to a total stranger. I can’t say how our relationship with our son’s birth parents will look over the years; but I can say that they made one of the most selfless decisions that can ever be made.