I had the pleasure of walking Blaine and Tyler through the adoption process from the very beginning of their journey until they welcomed their son home! People outside the adoption circle may not understand the complexities and the emotional toll that the adoption process can have on a family’s heart. It isn’t easy. It takes a lot of courage, faith, and strength to persevere through this journey. But Blaine and Tyler never gave up. I watched as this sweet couple placed their hope in God and not their circumstances. Tonight, they share a little bit of their journey with you.
It’s a privilege to share our story with you! It was not long ago that we were perhaps where you are now, seeking and searching for answers in the face of infertility and uncertainty. Why wouldn’t God allow us to have our own children? What is the road ahead for growing our family? We didn’t know the answers, and we felt so discouraged because nothing seemed clear to us. Having gone through all of the channels – infertility treatment, testing, counseling – we prayed and prayed and finally felt our hearts opened to adoption.
Several close family friends recommended Christian Adoption Consultants. We debated for a long time if a consultant service was necessary. However, the adopting families that we knew strongly recommended that we get all the help we could. From the very beginning of our journey, we could not have been more pleased. Kelly Todd and all of the CAC staff were so generous with us and provided a perspective that we never could have gotten on our own. There are so many pitfalls and confusing times on this journey, and having a guide was worth it at every step!
After the initial flurry of paperwork, the hardest part was waiting. On several occasions, we became excited about a possible match, only to be disappointed. In retrospect, this period of time was character-building for us since it deepened our dependence on God and led us to greater trust and patience in our marriage. However, at the time, it seemed to be pure torture. Without any guarantee that a baby would come, we simply had to wait and pray.
At last, we got the notification, so abruptly we could barely believe it, that a baby was being born across the country from us. We were a match for him, and he was ready for us! It didn’t even seem possible. We dropped everything and bought the first plane ticket we could find! One week later, we were holding our son in our arms. All the waiting suddenly made sense when our beautiful son arrived.
You’ll hear the cliche many times that “every adoption story is different,” but like many cliches, it contains a lot of truth. No one can say where your journey will lead you or what obstacles you are going to face. The best advice we have is to remember that, as in every trial, it is possible to either despair and lose hope or to deepen faith and trust in God. Making this choice will never be easy, but it will always be worth it. Our son, Beckett, is our pride and joy and a beautiful part of our family. We have no doubt that with faith, there is a child, somewhere, waiting for you.
***We provide the following adoption services at Christian Adoption Consultants: Embryo Adoption, Domestic Adoption & International Adoption. If you are interested in working with Kelly, you can reach out directly to her here-she would be more than happy to assist you, provide you with our adoption informational packet, and set up a FREE 30-minute consultation with you!***