We have another beautiful adoption story on the blog today! Ethan and Francesca started working with Christian Adoption Consultants near the end of 2018 and they brought home their son in the summer of 2019. Today Francesca shares their story and we pray that it is an encouragement to you wherever you are on your journey!
My husband, Ethan and I were married in 2017. After we got married we struggled with infertility. We went to many doctor appointments seeking answers. And even though we didn’t receive all of the answers God planted a different seed in us- a desire to pursue adoption. But it didn’t happen all at once. It started with my husband, Ethan. It happened to be Mother’s day, May 2018, when I received a phone call from him. Ethan blurted out over the phone that during prayer he felt that God wanted us to start looking into adoption. I was taken back and a little speechless. I don’t remember the rest of the conversation but as soon as I hung up I was overwhelmed with fear. The following weeks I did minor research and signed us up for an info session to learn more.
In the summer of 2018 we attended our first adoption informational meeting. After that meeting we spent the next few months researching and praying over the next steps to take. After we learned and explored the different possibilities we were connected with a consulting group called Christian Adoption Consultants and our consultant was Gretchen.
At the end of 2018 our home study was complete and we were ready to begin seeing situations. To share with you how I was feeling during this point of time I want to share a personal prayer you I prayed: “Lord, help me to wait, help me to find the joy in the process of the logistics, in the saving, in the waiting. Help us to know when the timing is right when to move or stand still, to act or not to act. Help us to trust in the decisions we make and that they be made for your will and not our own. Lord, I’m just so excited for your plans and not my own. Jesus, I trust in you.” During this time we started to hand over all of our fears and worries over to God as we started to present to expectant mothers.
For each case we had to consider if we were called to be part of the expectant mother’s adoption plan for her child, and the final decision was not up to us, but her. We presented a hand full of times and received many “no’s” or as I like to call them “not yets”. Those “not yets” left us feeling unsure of our decision and insecure about God’s plan for us.
I had no idea this part of the process would be so difficult to patiently wait, trust, and have the strength to hear “not yet” when we weren’t chosen. We had moments of sitting on the edge of our seats praying we would hear our names and preparing for our lives to change in a single second. But then we would hear a “not yet.” As hard as it was we had learned how to celebrate each “not yet” and to pray for the families who had been chosen and to continue praying for these expectant mothers and their babies.
We’d learned with each “not yet” how to trust a little more and not lean on our own understanding but in God’s. Looking back on that time it was the biggest emotional roller coaster we had ever been on. But we knew God had a plan and all we could do was to wait…wait patiently and trust! Then, after all of the waiting and trusting we finally received God’s “yes” for our family. We were told that after our profile was shown to an expectant mother she immediately knew that we were the ones she had been praying for to raise her baby boy.
Our son was born on June 15 2019. I will never forget those three days spent in the hospital caring for our son, Desmond, together. I will never forget the love our son’s birth mother shared with us throughout those days. She made me a mother and we are so thankful for her life and that she will be forever a part of ours.