Today, Carrie shares the journey that led them to their TWINS! Prior to working with us, Joe and Carrie had been in the adoption process for about 10 years on and off. Understandably, they were exhausted from the ups and downs of the process. Yes, they were weary, but they were not without hope. Joe and Carrie have a beautiful resilience about them that I know they attribute to the Holy Spirit. I was speaking with Carrie the other day on the phone, and she reminded me that one of the reasons she decided to reach out to CAC was because she came across a picture of my family, and she saw that we had adopted twins. Little did they know that almost 10 months later, they would be chosen to be the parents of boy/girl twins! Carrie paints pictures with words, and I know you will be tremendously blessed by what she has to share today!
I’m sure, like many others who have walked this process before, our adoption story can be best likened to a ride on a wooden (antique even) roller coaster. The ascent is filled with enthusiasm for what awaits when you finally make it to the top and have the ability to see out above the track. It is the boiling anticipation and stamina that sustain you. The descent sends your belly into your throat — the kind where you are both exhilarated and terrified simultaneously.
As we all know, with any truly great roller coaster ride, there are unexpected curves and swift moves that jerk you back and forth in your harness, keeping you on edge and awaiting the next turn or drop. There are outstanding peaks, of which you can only see out for a second, and steep drops that remind you that you have no control — where you can only hope and trust that this harness will do its job. This is the closest illustration to our adoption journey, which, in all reality, will continue as a beautiful lifelong story.
We have started many hopeful horizons in the face that plunged us into steep, unexpected drops. And though we experienced hope leading to disappointment over and over again, there was always movement — and so long as there is movement, there is life.
Joe and I were at the tail end of our willingness to continue on the path toward adoption after we encountered yet another unforeseen drop. Though we wanted children more than anything, the whiplash from years of letdowns was beginning to take its toll as the end seemed more like a hopeful imagination than a reality worth putting any more money or expectancy into.
We found Christian Adoption Consultants and decided this would be our final go-around before getting off this ride for good. It took 15 years of twists and turns to bring us to where we are today — holding our amazingly beautiful twin babies and basking in spit-up, diapers, and limited sleep. Getting here took walking through numerous adoption situations, experiencing a dozen plus rejections, enduring several failed adoptions, and learning long-suffering — in every sense of the word — that seemed as though it would never end. But, when we got into our SUV to drive home with our twin babies in the backseat safely strapped into two car seats that were loaned to us by our neighbors because we didn’t have time to buy our own, and as the congratulations started to pour in, I experienced something deeper than excitement — it was long-suffering coming to an end.
The process of adoption demands perseverance — and it is impossible to have perseverance without hope, without community, and for us, without CAC. They walked with us. That’s what friends do — they walk with you, at your pace, and alongside you. (A big thanks to Kelly, our Adoption Consultant, for walking — sometimes crawling — with us and always being present through this process and all its demands.)
And to the reader: If you are contemplating adoption, stop thinking and get on the ride.
***We provide the following adoption services at Christian Adoption Consultants: Embryo Adoption, Domestic Adoption & International Adoption. If you are interested in working with Kelly,you can reach out directly to her here-she would be more than happy to assist you, provide you with our adoption informational packet, and set up a FREE 30-minute consultation with you!***