I’m so thankful for the birth moms and adoptees who have been bravely sharing their stories here in this space. This particular post featuring the thoughts of a birth mom (Jasmin) feels really special to me because I was the adoption consultant for the family who adopted Jasmin’s daughter. Watching the adoptive family connect with Jasmin so quickly from their very first conversation and hearing them talk about how much they loved her and cared for her was really beautiful to watch. But it’s even MORE beautiful to now hear from Jasmin about her love for them as well!
|(This picture captures the gift of open adoption so beautifully, doesn’t it?)
Q and A With Jasmin
What do you wish everyone knew about being a birth mom?
“To me being a birth mom is a wonderful blessing knowing that I was able to birth out a wonderful gift to bless family with. In my situation being a birth mom is not bad at all. I see it as God chose me to bless a family and to also gain a family as well.”
What do you think is helpful about open adoption?
“Open adoption let’s you still be able to watch your child grow, you get to see how they’re doing and also stay in communication with the adoptive family and more.”
What is one of the hardest parts of adoption? What has helped you get through the toughest parts?
“The hardest part about doing adoption is not having my family, a few of my friends (who I thought were my friends ) not support my decision to give my child a better home/life than I could give her. It truly broke my heart to see them quick to judge and not believe in what they constantly preach about daily. For instance ‘picturing themselves in someone else shoes if they were in that same situation.’ What helped me get through those tough times was praying to God, talking/seeing my social worker/adoption agency, meeting the adoptive family I chose, and having my truly close friends by my side. Without them I would’ve been reckless. My social worker talked/texted me daily giving me encouraging words (she is like my second mom). My close friends stood by my decision throughout this whole process either they liked it or not they were there. Most of all speaking/seeing the most precious family. They really made my day because they understood my situation and why I chose to do adoption without judging me at all.”
What is one of the best parts? What is your relationship like with your child’s adoptive family?
“The best part about adoption is getting to speak/meet the adoptive family I chose. I remember my social worker telling me that they wanted to talk to me soon and that they were very excited. During that Sunday evening after work they called me. That moment was breathtaking and filled with excitement because for a moment it felt like I was being adopted too (lol). Just by talking with them that first night really really assured me that they were the family for my child. My relationship with my child’s adoptive family is amazing. I see them as my second family-more like a family I never had. We check up on each other, even if we’re busy; we always find time to see how the other is doing. I love them so dearly and I thank God for blessing them into my life each and everyday. They mean so much to me in every special way…I JUST LOVE THEM SO MUCH!!!”
Thank you so much, Jasmin, for your sharing your story with us! Your are a brave and loving mama and we’re grateful for your thoughts.