“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in His love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” John 15: 9-11
When I think of the journey that Josh and Lori have walked, this is the verse that comes to mind.
This couple has walked in love even in the midst of hardship and I am rejoicing today at the JOY on their faces!
What a handsome little man!
Big sis meeting little brother for the first time!
Josh and Lori started the adoption process 5 years ago. They originally started by pursuing international adoption, and door after door closed as they simply pursued the cry of their heart, to become a family to a child who needed them, to walk out the call that was burning in their hearts. The journey was full of disappointment and heartache. Several years in, they switched to domestic adoption, and again felt things going nowhere. A year and half into the domestic process, they found me. They needed to feel like there was still hope and I was blessed to be part of what would come next.
A month after starting with me (in March of 2013), they were matched with a situation that was not meant to be. Another heartache. My own heart just ached and cried out to God for mercy for this family.
In Lori’s words,
Every step we’ve taken and every closed door we’ve encountered was all guiding and pushing us to our son. If we hadn’t been matched with the first mom from our failed adoption, we wouldn’t ever have been connected with this agency and wouldn’t have found our son.
And He did faithfully lead them, even in the heartache, He was there. And we have no idea how much courage and strength their “Yes” to this first birth mom (who ultimately chosen to parent her child) gave to that young woman. Perhaps they were put in her life just to pray over her and that precious baby for a season, so that she felt free to make the best possible choice for her life.
And it was worth it. Worth the sacrifice. Because every life matters.
And now looking back, at the last 5 years, while holding her son in her arms, Lori has said,
It has been a long, tiring and trying five years. People have told us that maybe we should just be content that we have one biological child, and we weren’t meant to adopt. But adoption for us isn’t just about bringing a child into our home to love. It is something we believe in with all our hearts. Adoption is not just about opening your heart and home to a child but about the willingness to go to battle and endure bureaucracy, paperwork, red type, emotional and financial stress, heartache and waiting…always waiting. But God is good and He is there with you during this battle and in the end HE is victorious.
And that is true. And because His ways are perfect and His plans are good, through the past 6 years of my life as an adoption consultant, I have learned to lean in and trust Him even when walking through hardship with my families. As much as we would love every story to be full of joy and beauty and free from pain, those are rare stories to tell. Regardless of the journey, adoption is bittersweet in so many ways. God’s faithfulness has carried this family, just like it has so many before them.
(Reposted from CAC Adoption Consultant, Tracie Loux’s blog.)
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