In January, 2018, we started discussing growing our family and pursuing our second adoption. Renewing our home study went lightning quick and things started so fast at the very beginning. During our first adoption, we matched within just three months of being home study complete. We took a different route this time and Susan updated our profile. We were praying to be able to adopt from the same group as our first adoption since we had such an amazing experience.
This time around, the wait was much longer and we had to remind ourselves over and over it was all in God’s perfect timing. There was even a time when an expectant mother was deciding between us and another family. She chose the other children and it was the hardest “not yet” we had gone through. At this point a full year had come and gone but we trusted that God knew exactly what He was doing.
In January, we knew we needed to renew our home study so we started that process. The day we met with our social worker we heard about a baby boy who had just been born. As we read about him and all of the information, our hearts were so drawn to this little boy already. But there were so many unknowns that terrified us as well. He was born prematurely and there was a lot of medical records to pore over; most of which we didn’t understand in the beginning.
As we talked with our social worker, reviewing the information and anxious about all of the unknowns, she helped us think through all of the details. As one point she looked at me and pointedly asked, “What is stopping you in this situation? What is your deal breaker?” At that point we certainly didn’t understand all of the overwhelming medical records and didn’t know what the future held for this little boy. Could we go the distance…what if we lost him right away…are some of these issues so significant that they could be terminal…? We reached our to our pediatrician in an effort to better understand all of the possibilities.
Through tears we knew our answer. We knew that even with all of the unknowns that we needed to say “yes” to this baby. On January 22, we found out that we were chosen to parent this precious little boy. When we made it to the hospital where our son was waiting for us. In the coming days we saw miracles unfold. With the help of a wonderful nursing team, speech pathologist, and occupational and physical therapy, what was supposed to be weeks in the hospital turned out to be ten days. God’s perfect timing and a healthy little boy.
Throughout our entire journey, we could see God’s hands everywhere.